I get so scared at night?
Question: i dont know why but im always afraid that somebody is going to come into my house or something like that. i dont know whether my imaginations playing tricks on me but sometimes when everyone else is asleep i hear bangs and stuff downstairs, and knocks on my window. im terrified of the dark, but if my dad gets up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet or something he will come turn my light off, even if i tell him not to, and i always have to wait for him to leave before i can turn it back on, and i know its a short time, but i get quite scared in that short time. i was thinking about asking my parents if my dog can come upstairs and sleep in my bedroom with me, but my dog isnt allowed upstairs so theyd probably say no. if im home alone i will actually not leave my bedroom until somebody else comes in. im scared right now as i type this, but i always try to keep myself awake until i feel so tired i know id just fall asleep, which i know cant be healthy at all, because sometimes when i have to be up at 7am i dont get to sleep till around 3 or 4. this has only just started recently, a few months ago i wouldnt have these problems. i know this probably sounds stupid but.. thanks
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I used to have that problem. The secret is to not get so focused in on it. You need to turn on the radio, or ipod, or a CD, so you can't here the noises. If there is something that's bad happening, your folks and or your dog will here, and will alert you. It is not your job to be the security guard. When I was a teen we went to my Grandparents house a lot. A two hour drive. One time, since I was older, I had to sleep alone in the apartment upstairs. That place always gave me the willies! My sisters and I had decided there were ghosts in the attic closets, that were just the empty spaces in the walls, with doors for access. They stored some stuff there, but it was always dark, or shadowy. It really gave me the creeps. And the back stairway that led up to the little apartment was dark with lights that had a string to pull to turn them on or off. You get the idea. I'd decided I was getting too old to be afraid of such things, so, since I'd been forewarned, I took my record player (more than a couple of years ago, you see) and played records up there till I got sleepy, laid down, and actually slept all night. Since then I've been cured. Fear is no greater than you allow it to be. My other sweet Grandma, whom I will also love forever, used to be so afraid of someone breaking in, that she'd close all the windows tight, at night. She was also afraid the air-conditioner might have a problem, like start a fire or something, so she'd turn it off too. So there we were sweating to death, even though there could have been a nice breeze from outside, or a wonderful cool breeze coming from the a/c. Really quite funny, don't you think? Anyway, I hope this helps. Focus on something else, and your fears will disappear.
Wow you have it really bad! I go through a less severe form of what you go through and I'm 20! I know it's weird, but I couldn't help it at all! What I noticed is that I'm fine during the day, but once it becomes dark my stupid fears start up again. I noticed that I was able to sleep better after locking the door and getting ready for bed by listening to happy music or reading a good book! Happy fantasies help a lot! Also, get a giant pillow, when I was younger I would use that to cuddle and hang on to reality when I was scared. Even a bright night-light could make your nights a little better. Not those dull ones that seem to make the room creepier than normal, like a bright one that shows the room, but not too bright that you can't go to sleep because of the light. If none of these help, then I really recommend that you talk to some sort of professional because you don't want this to get worse and control your life as you grow into adulthood.
You don't say how old you are, but a problem like this is very difficut to deal with, at any age. If you were my child, I would get a referral from our family doctor, so you could see a therapist who could help you with this. Do you parents think your fear is funny, or that you are making it up? I am hoping they are taking you seriously. If you do not get any assistance from your parents, you should talk to an adult who you trust - grandparent, aunt, uncle, etc. Perhaps your church pastor could help by being present when you speak with your parents. Another source of help could be your school nurse or psychologist. If this is affecting your school work it is very important that you get help. Good luck!
You're not alone. I also had that fear. I overcame it by forcing myself to sleep with the shades open. I would lose sleep, but eventually I was so tired that I passed out. When I woke up, I realized I could do it and I no longer have that fear. I don't have a big backyard like you do, so I eventually realized I wanted the privacy in my room without neighbors looking inside my room so I installed horizontal shades. You should consider installing them too so no one can look inside. Also, you can ask your father to install a light that directs light towards the yard and not your window so at least the yard outside your window is lit up. Hope this helps!
you're not the only one. i have to sleep with my lamp on and my radio. i hate sleeping in the dark especially because of those things you listed. but having the radio on helps me a lot! you should try it!
I used to have extreme anxiety about things like this, and honestly it's one of the most annoying things to deal with. I ended up having to go for therapy for it (among other things) and it helped completely. I was able to analyze my feelings behind what I was scared of... even though it seems rather simple in your head right now.. if you talk to a professional, you may find out things you may have not even thought about. You could write about your fear as well. I find that writing about what I am worried about and trying to make sense about it helps alot. Write down why you are scared, and the possibilities of it actually happening. What you would do if it actually happened and how you would be prepared... You could ask your parents to install a code house alarm, so that if anyone opens the door or break s a window, the alarms will go off.
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