Is there a drivers seat in a relationship? is it a necessity to a successful relationship?
Question: I like the responses. I didn't intend this to be a gender thing and the answers generally were not. myself i feel that 2 people in a relationship take turns driving depending on an issue. say, money for example, i like the input though, thoughtful
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I think that in every marriage or relationship you have to have input from both partners. I know you're suggesting one drive and the other one take over depending on the issues. But ultimately all major decisions except for the most basic, discretionary ones should be made together. If not, some decisions will just be borne by one of the partners, and there sometimes comes the blame game and the "I told you so" remarks. When the two of you are working on the decisions together, then one partner doesn't feel disrespected or left out. And that's the key.
NO, I used to think that but it's oh so very wrong. A good relationship is based on the fact that you are both driving your own car on the same road I suppose you could say. It's give and take on both sides depending on circumstances and situations. There should never be a roster, or delegation it's about picking up the pieces when one persons down and vice-versa. Relationships are hard work and there's no manual, it's all about respect and meeting the other in the middle.
This self-centered immature little girl NEEDS TO GROW UP, and perhaps the best way for that to happen will be if she is FORCED to support herself. Check into the local laws and find out about having her evicted. Speak to the Attorney General's Office, Child Support division with regard to Custody, and petition the court for full custody with Child Support ordered. And (let me get this straight), you are disabled and yet are able to hold down a job as well? Sorry, exactly WHAT is her excuse for an excuse again? She doesn't want him to get sick, ever? So, what, is she going to raise the next Bubble Boy, or is she going to stop trying to use the fact that she has given birth one time as an excuse to stop being a responsible adult who pulls her own weight instead of demanding a free ride on the broken, bleeding back of someone she claims to care for?
Yes and no. These things have a way of bouncing back and forth. My wife is a very wise woman, has excellent ideas and in many areas I easily defer to her judgments and evaluations. Sometimes I have more experience in the matter and I make the decisions. Mostly we talk together and focus on the ultimate goal we are seeking. Then we work together and make joint decisions. We negotiate sometimes, barter sometimes. There are also some areas where I don't even try to operate and some areas where my wife doesn't try to operate. And we support each other in the decisions the other makes. So there is no hard and fast rule on this. In my experience.
Apple was the major player in the PC market; their Apple II computer outselling everything else. IBM decided they wanted a piece of the action, and set to work designing their own PC. Bill Gate's (who was in the business of porting BASIC to run on the myriad of other PCs that were being released at that time, and had even worked with Apple in writing some software for the Apple II) mother worked with a charity that the CEO of IBM also worked with, and she asked him to give Bill's company Microsoft a call to see if they would write the operating system for this new PC. Bill said he had a suitable operating system called Disk Operating System (DOS) that he would licence (but not sell) to IBM. He didn't actually have this operating system at the time; once IBM agreed he bought it from someone else for $50,000, who had actually just copied it from one of Bill's old friends. Shortly after this Apple released Lisa; a PC with a primitive graphical user interface (the GUI was developed at a research centre run by Xerox, but Xerox wasn't interested in developing it; when Apple saw the technology they bought the rights from Xerox and hired the people who had worked on it). Bill was not happy; this operating system was years ahead of anything he'd done and he felt Apple didn't really deserve it. He went back to Apple and asked to write applications for their new computer project 'Macintosh'. While working on the Macintosh, Bill instructed his team to start writing their own graphical user interface based operating system using what they had learn't from the Macintosh; Windows. The rest, as they say, is history.
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