Is it acceptable to come to work sick, blowing your nose at your desk, etc. when you have a pregnant coworker?
Question: I have a coworker who always comes to work when she is sick, and spreads her germs around. She is constantly honking her nose at her desk, and piling the snot-filled tissues next to her keyboard (and not washing her hands afterward.) She also coughs without covering her mouth. This has always annoyed me, but now that I am pregnant, and am especially wanting to avoid contracting any kind of virus, it is *really* making me angry and scared. Is she being inconsiderate here? Or should I just accept the fact that her germs are being spread all over the office, and wash my hands until the cows come home? It's also worth mentioning that our company is not especially harsh regarding sick days, and she does not *need* to be here.
Best Answers: Is it acceptable to come to work sick, blowing your nose at your desk, etc. when you have a pregnant coworker?
I'm trying to consider it from her shoes: 1. Is this job hourly pay? If so, then she might need the money to pay for stuff and that's why she can't afford to miss out even if she's sick. If not, then just ignore this one. 2. Does she have a type-A kind of personality? Perhaps she doesn't like being behind on her work, and the thought of having more to do when she gets back probably is making her reluctant to take a day off. If this is the case...then you and other coworkers could offer to make up some of her work if that is possible. Otherwise, she probably won't budge. You could also try to politely mention that she should take a day off. Don't say anything accusatory like, "you're going to get other people sick so stay home." Say it in a manner where it seems like you're being super concerned about her. "Are you okay? You seem like you can use some rest at home, sweetheart! You only have one body. You don't want to be over exerting yourself! I'm worried about you."<-if you can get other co-workers to chime in, then the more she would feel like, "oh maybe I should take a day off since these people are being so nice about it." Of course, you want to make it sound as sincere as possible. Humans are weird. If you say anything like, "stay home you're spreading germs" then the more belligerent they will be in terms of coming to work. She'd be like, "I hope I get them sick. Those jerks don't even give me any sympathy for my cold." The nicer you are and the more you consider it from their shoes, the more likely they will do what you want them to do. If none of those works...then well..maybe you should take a "sick" day off just to avoid being around her. You say that they aren't harsh about it right?
Yes, you do have a legitimate reason to work from home. Most jobs can be done from home, but it just depends if you have a micro-manager or not. A good, trusting manager will let you work at home to prevent you from getting sick. I had a micro-manager for years that wouldn't let anyone work from home because she was afraid that someone would take her job or know something that she didn't. Good luck to you. I hope that you can work from home.
Why are you so angry? Have you actually talked to this person? Start there. Say, "Hey Susan, I'd really appreciate it if you'd try to contain the germ spreading. I'm pregnant and really, really don't want to catch what you have." If she is unresponsive to a clear request, you can go to the HR department and talk with them, but don't expect too much. While you may think this person doesn't need to be at work, I assure you, the company does or she wouldn't have a job in the first place.
First of all, meet with your co-worker, and discuss what is happening. It may be deeper than you assume. Talk in a friendly voice and NEVER accuse. If neccessary, speak over the phone. But, it may be as you assume. The proper way to address a concern at work would be to cordially tell your boss about your peer's behavior. You would, with good posture to show your confidence, work with your boss to politely schedule a time for a meeting. If they are a rather busy person, leave a sticky note on their door, asking if you can meet. DO NOT MENTION THE ISSUE ON THE STICKY NOTE. Disrupting a meeting could put you on bad terms with yor boss. Tell your boss your concern, and why it concerns you. Remember, your purpose is not to tattle on a co-worker; it is to lighten you work load. Stress that you do not wish to endanger the job of your "dear friend (insert here)", but only at the begginning of your conference ONCE. You do not want to annoy your boss. Since you do not want to sound nosy, only take 10-30 minutes to address your complaint. Do not whine. Thank your boss for his time, shake his hand, and smile. Bonus Points: If your boss is friendly, and you think they would enjoy it, treat your boss out to a coffee shop during your chat, or bring a pair of coffees to the meeting. This naturally boosts the happy hormones in your boss, which will nudge him/her to the answer you wish to receive.
For the same reason mom's send their sick kids to school, the moms have to work for money or lose their job if they take time off. But, you say sick days are not a problem where you work. Maybe this person has allergies. I would go and buy a can of Lysol Disinfectant spray and use it toward her space to create a barrier against her germs. Or, I would tell her to remove her snot rags and wash her hands and cough into a tissue or the crux of her elbow. Someone has to get through to this girl. Perhaps your boss could have a nice long talk wit her?
I am as well. I am scared to death for my sons safety. We will NOT use child care other then grandparents and agreed that if the grandparents could not/ or did not want to do it any more then one of us would find a different job so there is always a family member with our son. I can't possibly imagine what is going through these peoples heads. Every time I hear of yet another innocent child passing away it brings me to tears. If some one EVER hurt my son, may God help them. But you are right, everyday you hear of another child senslessly killed by some half wit. It really does break your heart. I remember the one over the summer that just really tugged at my heart strings, there was a preganet lady who lived in Ohio and her boyfriend, who mind you was also a cop, killed her and buried her body, with a son they had toghether in the house and then LEFT him there by himself, the child was very young, 2 or 3 maybe, and saw his mother die. How horrible. But on the same note of children dieing, I am tired of hearing about the drunk drivers, and the ones who take the lives of other innocent people, and I am not talking just about the celebrities. Down here in Toledo, there was a family who was driving on the I 280 highway, when a man, who was twice the legal limit, got onto the highway the wrong way, hitting a van head on. He killed the mother, a 6 month old baby, and 3 other children. Two of the children and the father lived but were in the hospital, the little girl was in critical condition for a long time. And when they showed him on tv to go to court for his crime, he was walking. He kills 5 people and he walks on his own two feet into court. The just a week later then that, 2 girls were drinking and driving and again got on ANOTHER highway in Toledo, the wrong way, causing a bad accident, fortunatly noone was killed. It is not like the entrance and exits arn't clearly marked, when your going the wrong way on the ramp it tells you right away. It is all happening too much! To add a last, a guy here was just arrested for ANOTHER DUI. This is his 16th DUI and he is on probation-----again! Thank you for listening(reading)!
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