I am married Muslim want to get divorce?
Question: I am from bangalore n working in Dubai. I had been dating this american women from Dec 2008. we had not committed each other n we had been going along well n were good friends. but we knew that we had feelings for eachother. I liked her, but was not sure whether she liked me too. she knew that my parents were keen to get me married. but I wasn't ready n always refused to. meanwhile she got a job in Qatar n accepted it. just before going on vacation we both had a small fight n argument. so I thought it was over n move on from there. I came to India in July. my parents forced me to get married to this Muslim girl. I wasn't very keen n happy. my married life wasn't going well. we had difference of opinions n she was immature. we quarrel n argue each other. my 2 months vacations became hell. Meanwhile in August, while I was in India. my friend from U.S called me to let me know that she loves me desparately n realised her feelings towards me n wants to marry me. I was shocked. when I told her about me been married already to someone. she was heartbroken and upset. I came back to Dubai in August. she flew from Qatar to see me. we met n realised feelings for each other n we decided to get married. As my marraige wasn't going anywhere n it was miserable n hell. I wanted to get divorce from her. but I don't know what the procedures are to file divorce. I know my parents would not let this happen n oppose me n even I may not get my wife in india to get divorce on mutual settlement. therefore I need to know how I can go about. I don;t want to go to India. Also I don;t want my parents to know about it. I want to prepare all the necessary documents n then let them know so as to avoid any obstacles in getting it done. I was married to her in July 2009 as per Islamic Shariah. My marraige certificate was issued by WAKF Board in bangalore and attested/notary done by Home Department. I was trying to search online about divorce laws n I found that marraige has to be registered in the Registrars Office of ur district under Special Marraige Act. otherwise it will not be recognised by any other country. so does that mean the marraige certificate issued by WAKF board is not fully valid. kindly let me know.. if some attorney can help or suggest in this regard. As my girlfriend n me willing to get married in U.S after we get a divorce. Can someone suggest in view of Islamic Shariah how the divorce takes place n where u apply for n how to get the necessary documents for it to be recognised in U.S your suggestions and opinions would be highly appreciated. Thanks.
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The Muslim Marriage (NIkkha) under the Shariat & Nikkhanamma/marriage certificate issued by Wakf board is absolute valid & well recognised in India & any other country. As far further registration of the Muslim Marriage is concerned with government authorities which is power delegated to the Registrar of Marriages of the district appointed under the Special Marriage Act,1954 or under any local Matrimonial laws enacted for marriage registration of the marriages solemnized in the state irrespective of the religion of the parties is concerned that can be done by the muslim couples at their convenience anytime. The dissolution of Muslim marriage by triple divorce is common & can be done by the Muslim man however this triple calling of talaq has to take in three months time period & on the third call the talaq/divorce become final for all purpose, a talaqnamma is obtained which will be valid proof of the divorce for Muslim man & woman for remarriage. This talaqnamma/decree of divorce can be attested by the Home Department & MEA as was done for Nikkanamma/marriage certificate.
You should stay married - you made a commitment. Try and appreciate the things that you find positive e.g. the fact that she is hardworking / likes to read etc. Remember there is no such thing as perfection in a person 100% of the time. Work on the marriage and developing hobbies that you can both enjoy. Make an effort to keep lines of communications open - Don't end up going from the frying pan to the fire.
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Well my father is muslim and when he and my mom divorced, you obviously have to go through the system and file papers ect. whether it be here or overseas. But During this process because im sure it'll take a bit longer than a month, Go to your imam and tell him you want a divorce between your wife and allah, and he will show you how to ask. My dad said all you have to do is make a dua'h from your heart saying that you no longer wish to be committed to her, and Insha'allah he will accept :--]
you're married to an egyptian man? it's not going to be easy for you over there.. need more $$ to handle divorce cases in Court....especially in Saudi Arabia they're more strict than Asian they are very strict in religion but I'm not sure for your Egyptian man whether he's pretty strick in his religion in eg. Islam?......you sit down and think it over and over again because you're an Asian....it's not easy....(sigh)... if he's into Islam he is allowed to have 4 wives....so if he didnt say a single word about "divorce" to you he will never let you go, it's either you record whatever he said "clearly" the word "divorce" or if he never/stop providing you and your children with food/shelter/expenses for 3 months then you can go to the Islamic court and file for divorce.......this is under Islamic law you can check them out in their internet...good luck! BTW: you have to check Islamic law in Arab.....ok not in Asia ...
First of all, a muslim having an affair? I ask you to have fear of Allah. Sometimes you want something so bad and think it's best for you, but only Allah knows the hidden evil behind it. "Abu Hurairah related that the Prophet Muhammad said: “A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty or her religion; choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust" (Bukhari 9:08). Your parents should have never forced you to marry someone against your wishes. This and of itself is against Islam (sadly, it's a practise very common with muslims). My point is, although you are allowed to marry non-muslim women, there are conditions attached to it. She has to be chaste, etc. Sadly, my muslim brothers today care very little for this. My brother wanted to marry an american woman too. He phoned and told me of his intentions. I advised him of the many many problems associated with this. He went ahead and married her behind the family. (it's okay, he is an adult). But two years later, he ended up in Jail (because she reported him for lack of proper documentation (fair enough). At first, he thought she was all he wanted, he would do anything to marry her....all the love words, etc. Now, she is his worst enemy. Have you thought about when you have children, would they be muslims? When you divorce (just in case, in life you just never ever ever know), she is more likely to have the children. Hello, you'are a muslim. The courts will throw you out or have little sympathy for you. Anyway, at this moment in time, you are soooo in love, Allah knows how much. You may even hate my response and think I am a fanatic. Alhamdulilla. Allah will show you. Turn to Allah. Be a muslim, a real, Good sincere muslim who has fear of Allah. Perform your salaat. Perform istikhara regarding all the issues presently affecting you now. Don't be in haste. Believe it or not, want to hear me out or not, you reap what you sow. I am not against americans at all so please don't get me wrong. But I am particularly worried when a MUSLIM man is about to dig his grave and make mistakes that he will UNDOUBTEDLY REGRET WITHOUT A SINGLE OUNCE OF DOUBT. May Allah assist you.
Intolerant rhetoric? Yes. Ignorant? Perhaps with the young men and women that are duped into carrying out the orders of the imams. But even they are choosing to believe the rhetoric coming from above them. As far as the men with the microphone? They are not ignorant. Insane? Perhaps. But the ones that preach jihad against all who are not in the house of islam are only practicing according to the fundamental teachings of their instruction manual. Fundamental Christianity teaches to love and spread a message. Fundamental islam teaches to conquer, destroy and kill until all the world is islamic. How does Bill's answer qualify as ignorant, intolerant rhetoric, Rose.... surely not from Texas.. :)
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