Is it wrong to leave my daughter's dad and move 12 hrs away?
Question: I've been with him almost 7 years, and it hasn't been a good relationship in a long time. I feel like I have no support any more, and he scares me sometimes! He backed into my car on purpose the other day, leaving a huge dent. He broke 2 of the door frames in my/our rental house, and a window! He fights with me and yells at me right in front of my daughter (who is 3 and 3/4), and I'm not going to let her grow up like this. My daughter was born in DE, ade we moved to IN when she was 2. Now I want to go home to DE, and I'm afraid the courts will make me come back, or won't let me take her! He has not filed for custody or anything... what do I do? ETA: there's no other man. This move is to be close to my mom and my family.. I have no one in IN, only one member of his family, and they're not worth sticking around for, either. thank you for the support.
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Get a Domestic order out on him NOW..., This will stop him from coming near you while you can do what you need to do. If he is bad *** the Police will sort him out., Apply for custody and move or Move when you apply for custody. When you figure out where ya going best to apply there so that the hearing is there where you are wanting to move to.. This Link is a Lawyer info that you can use some for free. https://track.commissionfactory.com.au/b/1720/1702/
Stop ignoring her. Send her a letter and tell her that you have no interest in being in her life. Remind her that she has a family who loves her, and that you have nothing to offer. If you don’t she may just out you to your community or show up at your house. I suggest you do it through an attorney’s office - they can’t even tell your husband, and the ‘official’ notice may work better than just your personal letterhead. Going straight for the restraining order puts into the courts, and that makes it publicly available, something you’re trying to avoid. I am in the same position, just mine hasn’t come looking for me. If he did I would send him packing right back to his parents. That’s what a closed adoption was supposed to mean! I’m not ashamed of it, and my husband knows, but this thing where ‘everybody should get to know their biomom’ is just nuts. Talk about opening Pandora’s Box....
It was absolutely right, & you did what any loving mother would do :]. Your daughter's dad was being violent, full of hatred, & was mistreating you. You saved your daughter from dealing with the pain that you might be feeling right now & the pain he has made you feel in the past. Good luck to the both of you, you sound like a wonderful mother.
I was on holiday 2 weeks ago when a guy left his kid outside the pub in a pushchair while he went inside to talk to someone for half an hour. When my friend intervened she was told to mind her own business. Anyone could have come along and just wheeled the child away, it beggars belief.
I'm only 13, but believe me, you are right to move. If he's this mean and rude, then he has no business being your husband or your daughter's father. Best of luck to you and you daughter. :)
forget a note - you need to call the law enforcement authorities and let them handle it (or parking enforcement if they are still open )
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