Is it wrong to let a fired co-worker be fooled about why she was let go?
Question: Last year, a co-worker quit and the Administrative Assistant position was filled with a temp-to-hire person, in intent being to hire the person after a 'trial' period. The position goes hand-in-hand with my own, so the temp and I worked together daily for over 3 months. I, as well as our supervisor, noticed over this time that the temp's computer skills were not up to par as far as the demands of our office and the position. Common tasks like desktop publishing, document formatting, spreadsheet/table manipulation, internet research were beyond the scope of what this woman could easily accomplish at an acceptable level - some of it she never really grasped or mastered while she was here. The entire time she worked here, the temp spoke about the job and company in terms of 'when I go permanent' or 'when they hire me on permanently' and to my knowledge, no one ever disputed this. A week after her probationary period ended (i.e. the 90 days outlined in the temp-to-hire agreement) and she was eligible to actually be hired on by my company, our supervisor asked me if I thought things were "getting better" with the temp (meaning, how she was acclimating, her overall ability to do the job, computer skills as it pertains to job functions, etc). I was honest and said no and gave examples of why I felt this way, all of which my supervisor agreed with. My supervisor and the regional manager to whom I report called me 'on the carpet' later that week to tell me they were letting the temp go and they want me to attempt to do both our jobs (which I was ok with). Well, cut to the Friday the temp gets the news (she actually got the call from her temp agency the night before, and opted to come on in and work half a day on Friday, to get her things, etc) - my supervisor and the temp agency made the temp believe she was not going to be hired due to budget concerns - and that's IT. She thinks she didn't get hired ONLY because of $$ - the temp told me this herself, and that she'd been told this by my supervisor. Now, I'm not interested in beating this woman when she's down, or making her feel crappy about her shortcomings, but doesn't someone owe it to her to say, 'Hey, your computer skills REALLY need some work, and your deficiency in that area is what's prohibiting you from getting a good, stable job' (I know from chit chats with the temp that she's gone through a few short-term jobs over the past few years, and she's a "mature" lady who should have GREAT administrative skills by this point in her life). This lady added me on Facebook before she left, so I still know how to contact her - is it completely out of line to say something to her about a need to improve her computer skills and knowledge (I feel like in addition to possibly insulting her, I'd also be betraying my company)? Or do I just let it go and let her move on with her life? I feel like it's doing her a disservice to let her think she didn't get hired because the company can't afford it, when it's really just a lack of skills on her part - something she is totally in control of fixing! Re: her computer skill level and her 'maturity' - I was trying to nicely say she's an older lady. I wasn't making assumptions about where her skill level should be - she TOLD me details of her previous jobs, and based on those conversations (if they were truthful) she couldn't have held those positions without knowing how to operate, for example, Word and Excel at least moderately well. If I am making assumptions about what I think her skill level should be, it's based on the # of jobs I would imagine one has in the # of years she's been working, what she stated those jobs to be and the fact that she claimed her skill level with Microsoft Office programs was 'advanced'. Oh, and she said she had worked in the field of IT as well...you can't really work IT and not be proficient with the most commonly used programs, can you?
Best Answers: Is it wrong to let a fired co-worker be fooled about why she was let go?
You need to stay out of this one. If she turns around and says she was unjustly let go and goes after the company you will be right in the middle of things. You will also be accusing your bosses of lying. Even if they did, to accuse them of it is a short trip to the unemployment line. They may have made up the reason because they didn't want the decision challenged. You need to not meddle. I know you feel she would profit from the truth but it isn't your place and you could do yourself a world of damage. Take care. Your heart is in the right place but don't go there.
Yes. If the Employee Manual states that dating is not permitted between co-workers then violating that provision of the company policy can be grounds for termination. It's usually a clause designed to reduce the chance of sexual discrimination lawsuits. Dating a co-worker is a bad idea. If the relationship should sour you will still have to see that person on a daily basis, and that could get very awkward.
I would really want to know why I am not being kept at job. The truth would be better than some made up crap about money issues. But you need to also protect yourself. I wish there was a way you could tell her anonymously that she needs to brush up on her computer skills. Maybe you could send her some information on classes she could take on the subject like a gentle suggestion? Or write an anonymous note to her or her temp agency.
So, what is your point? You provide NOTHING. I am presuming a racist event, but don't know because you provide NOTHING. I'm guessing she refused to let her daughter be purveyed because her daughter is White and she insisted the cabbie is not White and a threat to her precious White daughter. But we don't know, because you provide NOTHING.
If you feel that strongly about it, why don't you approach it in a wy that you are not telling her that is the reason nor betray your company. EX: hello, was thinking about you and wondered how the job searches are going. Hopefully well. I have been hearing a lot of people have been using this time to return to school be improve your skills or even changing their careers. With the job market being to tight right now, have you thought about it? You have advise her to improve her skills in a way that doesn't betray anyone. Just a thought.
No it is absolutely not wrong. Every child wants attention from their parents. Especially when it is rare to see them. I bet you understand he needs the money to support you guys so I won't lecture you on that. You may feel a bit lonely and unloved. It's hard and I agree the economy SUCKS. Why don't you try something creative to keep in touch. Like making small videos here and there so it feels like you both aren't missing out. Every time you see him create a conversation and if he says he's tired confront him. While you confront him explain you understand and appreciate everything, also add what you need the most is him.
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